This is how we do it: ‘Sex was our glue
Pam and Mike couldn’t keep their hands off each other when they met. But as aging and biology have taken their toll, their sex life has suffered
TL;DR
- Pam and Mike, a couple in their late 60s and early 70s, have not had sex in two years.
- Mike attributes the decline to his 'dead dick' and a lack of desire, despite Viagra helping with erections.
- Pam feels insecure and misses the playful, softer side of herself that sex brought out.
- They acknowledge that societal expectations desexualize older women, which Pam has internalized.
- The couple used to rely on sex to resolve conflicts, but now need to work harder on their relationship.
- Both express a desire to regain intimacy and are considering attending Burning Man as a potential catalyst.
- Mike feels he is letting Pam down and wishes for more touch, even non-sexual, to feel desired.
- The article frames their experience as a shared struggle with aging's impact on intimacy.